Tricky Teens 

Reviewed By  Janet Mawdesley       September 18, 2014

 

Author  Andrew Fuller

Distributor:       Booktopia/Amazon 
ISBN:                 9781925048186
Publisher:         Finch Publishing
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Website:    http://www.finch.com 

 

Tricky Teens undoubtedly follows on from Tricky Kids which only makes sense as does the content of this latest offering on how the mind and emotions of the now teenaged child in your household operates.

Let’s face it; you start out with a lovely buddle of joy which in its later years, teen years to be exact,  turns into the child from some other place, certainly can’t be your beloved child and what is happening to my beloved child!

 It would seem that not all children morph into impossible going thought this massive learning curve known as  ‘growing up’, to use and old a fashioned phrase, but most seem to in one form or another; some more so and more extreme than others.

In this handbook, as it can only be called that, Fuller gives some very, very sensible tips and suggestions on how to manage and survive these years fraught with parental hazard. It also follows that much of what is offered in the way of advice to help manage the teen years can be looked at by the discerning as tips on how to manage in life, regardless of age!

The opening line in the book ‘Teenagers are, essentially, mad,’ sums it up nicely and the trick to survival as you are the parent, is not to join them in this madness.

But how to avoid all the traps and how best to be the loving parent in a world appearing to have gone temporarily mad, where your every word is challenged and confrontation can be the order of the day, is the question posed here.

Fuller has offered hope, guidance, suggestions and a lot of common sense starting out with ‘Pledge to my teenager’, which every parent needs to read and then give a copy to their mutant child. It sets the rules for the oncoming skirmish and perhaps, most of all reinforces to the parent that they are, at the end of it all, the parent and the person who loves them.

This sets the tone for what is to come and by the last page you will have an occasionally ‘tongue-in-cheek’, always slightly more light hearted, totally practical method of your and your families survival. Does Fuller have all the answers, probably not! But he does appear to have most of the answers to help you plan your course through these challenging years.

Based on his many years of working with Teens he also offers a first-hand look at what the Teen is going through; what physical, psychological and neurological changes are taking place in their bodies and how this is played out in various ways.

He also offers an excellent range of methods to help deal with the teen that will not socialise, socialises too much, communicates in grunts when words will do and refuses to change their clothes!

Topics such as drugs, depression, sexuality, alcohol, girl/boy issues and self-harm, are also discussed and how best to manage these and many other issues faced by today’s teens.

Finally he offers a range of essential conversations you need to have with your teens on areas such as money, winning and losing, forgiveness and so much more: put simply, conversations on life.